Thursday, April 26, 2018

Will You Love and Accept Love to Make the World a Better Place?

William Glasser, MD, a noted psychiatrist, postulated decades ago that the two deepest needs humans have are to love and to be loved. 

Years after publishing his original work describing Reality Therapy, he distilled those two simple needs down to one: the need to belong.

How to Bring Love and Belonging Into Your Life Every Day

In this 4-minute episode of the, "Make the World a Better Place" podcast recorded in a Barnes & Noble cafe', I expand on how we can bring Dr. Glasser's insights into reality in our own lives by sharing positive heartfelt words of approval with family, friends, co-workers and others. 

In sharing words of approval that tell others we love them and we are open to accept love from them, we truly do make this world a better place.

Click the audio player below to learn the simple actions that will enrich your life and lives of others.

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Stephen Carter | Stress Solutions, LLC |

Wednesday, April 11, 2018

Why Stress Matters & a Guided Meditation for Stress Release

Click Player at End of Post to Listen to, "Why Stress Matters & Guided Meditation for Stress Release", episode 1 of the "Mind Over Stress Show" podcast.

This show is born out of my desire to help everyone live a healthier, happier, low stress life. As a former trainer for the Maryland Police Training Commission, I was tasked with developing the first stress management training program for police supervises way back in the 1970s. 

In developing that early stress management program, I learned and experienced many stress reduction methods including hypnosis, meditation, and somatic or body-based relaxation methods. For more than 40-years, I’ve been an evangelist for encouraging people to take control of their own wellbeing.

Why Chronic Stress Matters?

If you enter the search term, “stress and health” into the Google Scholar search service, you’ll see nearly 4.6 million results. The science is clear: chronic stress robs us of a zest for life, health, and happiness. 

A chronically stressed body can be a seedbed for physical and emotional disease. One key reason for increased disease risk relates to the immune system. Under chronic stress, the immune system can be degraded and in some cases virtually shut down entirely.

Study after study link chronic stress to increased risk for heart disease, cancer, and other serious conditions. One study found toxic workplace stress could take 33 years off of your life expectancy.

Stress creates a mental and emotional environment of anxiety and depression. There is a direct connection between our level of stress and our sense of happiness and emotional wellbeing. 

Stress Makes us Stupid

Stress makes us stupid and reduces our ability to perform in an optimum way. Why? Because under stress, there are physiological changes that include redirection of blood from the brain to large muscle groups in the body in preparation for flight or fight. We simply don’t have the same brain power when we’re stressed.

How You Benefit From Listening to This Show?

You and I just explored the bad news about stress. The good news is there are proven, effective, and easily done methods for dissolving stress and enhancing physical and emotional wellbeing. 

That is what this show is about. In every episode, you’ll learn the tools, techniques, and mindset to create optimum wellbeing. 

Some episodes will include interviews with experts who will share their stories of healing and offer proven methods to achieve a happier, healthier life. 

In other episodes, I will share the latest stress related research and provide easily done ways to dissolve stress and create positive, life-affirming states of mind and body.

First Stress Technique - Yawn, Sight, Stretch

Speaking of dissolving stress, let’s experience our first stress dissolving technique followed by a short guided meditation.

As simple as this is, the fMRI evidence tells us it's a powerful method for energizing the prefrontal cortex (executive function area of the brain) while relaxing the body. You simply yawn, sigh, and stretch. Yawn even if you don't feel a need to do so. Repeat two or three times for instant stress relief.

Guided Meditation - Audio Time Stamp 5:08

Please don’t listen if you’re driving or engaged in other activity requiring your full attention. Listen later when you can give 100% attention to this Relaxation Response experience.

To listen to this guided meditation for stress release, click the player below. If you want to go directly to the meditation section, go to the 5 minutes and 8 seconds position in the audio file.

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Blessings, light and peace,

Steve Carter | Stress Solutions, LLC | 

Thursday, March 29, 2018

Your Child or Your Phone - Which is More Important?

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In this short episode of "Make the World a Better Place" podcast, you meet a mother who cares more about her phone than her child. We explore how turning off the phone and connecting with our children and other loved ones really does make the world a better place.

A four-year old boy was desperate to gain the attention of his mother. As the mother waited to pick up their order at McDonald's with her face buried in a cell phone, the boy called out to his mother, pleading with her to look at the toys in a display. He was excited to share with his mother which toy he wanted.

As he called to her again and again, she ignored him. Her face stayed buried in the cell phone. In desperation, the four-year ran to his mother and pulled on her pant leg crying out, "mom, mom, please look!".

The boy's mother finally raised her head from the phone and shouted at the boy, "Can't you see I'm busy? Leave me alone!". She turned back to the phone.

Crushed, the boy walked back over to the toys, turned around and just looked at his mother.

The Important Lesson - Be Present for Loved Ones

As part of this, "Make the World a Better Place" short 3-minute podcast, I encourage everyone to learn from this story and evaluate what - and who - are most important to us.

In my view, there is nothing more important than giving our complete attention to our children, our loved ones, and our friends who are with us here and now. By turning off the phone and really connecting with others in a committed, loving way, we find a greater sense of happiness and inner joy.

How to Make This World - and Your World - a Better Place

In connecting with those with us in the here and now, we truly do make the world a better place for others and for ourselves.

Steve Carter | Stress Solutions, LLC |

Tuesday, March 20, 2018

International Day of Happiness - How to Be Happier!

Listen to Podcast Episode

Listen to "International Day of Happiness - How to Be Happier!" on Spreaker.

March 20 is the International Day of Happiness. In this episode, you'll learn how this special holiday came to be and how it literally unites the world in the goal of increasing happiness around the globe.

Each year the United Nations publishes their survey of international happiness for each world nation.

The United States ranks 16th in the world with an average of 6.88 out of 10. This year's U.S. score is the lowest since the United Nations began publishing their International Happiness Report in 2012. Each year, the U.S. score falls compared to the previous year.

Who is responsible for ensuring people are as happy as possible, not only in the United States, but across the globe? While national governments can play an important role, the most important role has to be played by each of us individually. Each of us is responsible for our own happiness.

In this episode of the, "Weird and Wacky Holidays Show" podcast, you'll learn what the research tells us about happiness. You'll learn the single, most powerful action you can take every day to increase your sense of happiness and why that single action is so effective in creating your personal, "Book of Joy".

Stephen Carter | Stress Solutions, LLC |

Wednesday, October 18, 2017

Why Self-Talk Matters

While we usually are careful about what we say to others, how careful are we when we engage in self-talk? Do we choose self-talk words that are kind, caring, and loving? Usually not. 


How many times do we engage in self-talk in an average day? People who study such things offer estimates ranging from 25,000 to 50,000 times a day. 

Think about your own self-talk. How often do you recycle the same internal self-talk monologues: "That was stupid!"; "How could I be so clueless?"; "Why am I such a loser?"; "Life sucks then you die!". On and on it goes.

Every Thought Creates Emotional and Physical Reactions

Every thought, every internal monologue, every time you engage in self-talk, your subconscious mind is listening and your body is responding to every word. 

When you say to yourself things such as, "I'm a loser", your subconscious mind hears that proclamation. Unless you consciously challenge that proclamation, it sails into the negative beliefs bin and contributes to low self-esteem and a disempowering self-image.

When you ask a question in self-talk such as, "Why do I always fail?", your subconscious mind - always the faithful servant - goes on a hunt through your memory bank and negative beliefs bin. It returns answers based on the premise of your self-talk question. 

Everything the subconscious sends up to your conscious mind is in alignment with the underlying assumption of the question. To use a computer term, the subconscious mind operates on the GIGO principle; GIGO is short for, "Garbage In, Garbage Out".

How to Change Self-Talk From Negative to Positive

Here are five easy steps to help you create more empowering self-talk.

  • Set the intention to pay conscious attention to your self-talk.
  • When you notice a self-critical proclamation or question, say boldly in mind or out loud, "STOP!". 
  • Breathe in and exhale slowly.
  • Ask in mind or out loud, "Is there a lesson? What if anything do I choose to do differently?" Wait for an answer.
  • Say in mind or out loud, "I choose now to let it go" as you again breathe in and exhale slowly.

How You Benefit

Taking these simple steps will interrupt the negative self-talk, allow time to put the situation that led to the negative self-talk in better perspective, and calm the emotional and physical stress response created in the wake of the original negative self-talk proclamation or question.

In a future post you'll learn how to properly phrase affirmations and take other steps to build a strong positive self-image. Until then, each time you take the steps you now know to neutralize negative self-talk and calm the stress response you'll be moving toward increased mental clarity, and enhanced emotional and physical well-being.

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Blessings and light,

Steve Carter

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Sunday, July 23, 2017

Stay Calm by Staying Safe

One excellent way to stay calm is to take steps to stay safe. In this episode of the Safe Living Today podcast, you'll learn how to track criminal incidents in your neighborhood, work with neighbors to create a safer community, and partner with police to help ensure they are responsive.

Listen to "Stop Crime in Your Neighborhood - Episode 1" on Spreaker.

Stephen Carter
Stress Solutions, LLC | | 

Wednesday, May 24, 2017

Create a Moment of Calm and Peace

In this video you'll be led through a short 2 minute 34 second breath and intention meditation to create a calm and peaceful state of mind and body. You can apply this meditation periodically throughout the day to enhance emotional and physical well-being.

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Steve Carter

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