Tuesday, January 15, 2019

3 Reasons to be Kind and the Story of Deputy William Haley

Photo of "Be Kind" written in chalk.
It happens thousands of times every day. Police officers extend countless acts of kindness. 

They buy coats for homeless people in winter. 

They buy Christmas presents for disadvantaged kids who otherwise would have nothing on Christmas Day. 

One New York City police officer was "caught" buying boots for a homeless man who had no shoes.

Enter the search term in Google, "police buy homeless man lunch" and more than 18 million entries show up.

What do most of these stories have in common? They rarely get told. These acts of kindness aren't "news" to mainstream media.

Yet, every now and then these acts of kindness get noticed - and a tiny number get celebrated.

A few days ago Elizabeth McClain and her friend Patti Walker were on lunch break when they noticed a deputy sheriff sharing lunch with a homeless man. 

Deputy William Haley's Act of Kindness

Deputy William Haley of the Madison County, Tennessee Sheriff's office saw a homeless man beside an onramp to Interstate 40. Deputy Haley drove to the nearest McDonald's and purchased two cheeseburgers and other food. He took it back to the homeless man and gave him the food.

But he did more. He prayed with the man and joined him for the meal.

As Deputy Haley said in an interview, 

"That's something I do if I see someone in need and I'm able to help."

Picture of Kindness

Here, Elizabeth and her friend enter the picture. Literally. 

They take a photograph of Deputy Haley eating and talking with the homeless man and post it on Facebook.

And it goes viral...

As the photo and description spread, some in the news media decided there was a story to be told. 

In one interview, Haley said,

“It would’ve been OK for me to give him some food and driven off, but how long do you think it had been since someone sat down with him, shook his hand, prayed over a meal with him and asked him how he was doing?"

And so his act of kindness is being recognized by thousands of people.

Why Being Kind Matters

Engaging in random acts of kindness matters. It matters to those who are helped and it matters to those who offer those acts to others.


First, when we help others we are tapping into our core sense of love and connection as we affirm we care about - and for - others for no reason other than it's who we truly are.

Second, it feels good to be kind. It creates a sense of warmth because we choose to help someone else.

Third, it's the right thing to do. 

Spiritually, we know that truth. But in our hectic day-to-day lives we're so absorbed in problems and activities that our faint voice of spirit is too often lost in daily noise.

Will You Be Celebrated for Random Acts of Kindness?

Will You Be Recognized Like Deputy Haley?

Probably not. Does it matter? I hope not.

In this polarized world, I hope you find it in your heart to make kindness a priority. 

For me, Deputy Haley's story is a reminder I can do more...

And I plan on doing more everyday to make our world a better place one kind act at a time.

Stephen Carter

Stress Solutions, LLC | www.EFT-MD.com | Podcast: www.MindOverStress.us

Tuesday, January 8, 2019

Autoimmune Healing and Energized Health Interview With Dr. Terry Lynch

Dr. Terry Lynch was diagnosed with multiple sclerosis while an assistant professor at the School of Health Professions, at the University of Stony Brook in New York. Mainstream medicine failed her so she turned to holistic healing methods to cure herself of M.S. She shares her story and specific healing techniques in this episode of the "Mind Over Stress" show.

Click the player above to listen. If you don't see the player, click: https://pod.link/1368081093.

The Show Notes to include timestamps for topics covered in this, "Mind Over Stress" episode are below.

How Dr. Lynch Healed Multiple Sclerosis

In this interview with Dr. Terry Lynch you’ll discover how she transformed her life and healed Multiple Sclerosis with affirmations and energy healing methods.

Dr. Lynch has been a healing professional for more than 30 years. She holds Doctorate and Bachelor degrees in Physical Therapy, a Masters in Health Sciences, and an alternative Graduate Degree in Advanced Massage..

Terry was an Assistant Professor for about 10 years with the medical school at the University of Stony Brook, Stony Brook, New York. She is licensed to practice Physical Therapy in New Jersey and New York.

In addition to her medical degrees and professional experience, Terry is an international speaker, a consummate Energist, Author, Coach, and Trainer.

She holds certifications as an EFT Master Practitioner, EmoTrance / EMO Practitioner, and uses Reiki, Matrix Energetics and other holistic methods. She created the Inner Awareness Method and a proprietary coaching system to help clients achieve optimum wellbeing and professional success through her Healing to Wellness, LLC practice.

Key Points of Terry’s Interview

You’ll find timestamps below for key points in the interview. After listening to the entire conversation, you can return to specific topics of interest by going to the appropriate timestamps:

03:23 What drew Terry to Physical Therapy.

06:48: Terry is diagnosed with M.S. and talks about the stress that contributed to the condition.

09:52: Terry’s emotional reaction when she heard the M.S. diagnosis.

10:40: Terry discovers the book, “You Can Heal Your Life”, by Louise Hay.

12:52: How Terry’s earlier exposure to Nightingale Conant audios, Brian Tracy and his coaching program, Tony Robins, and other motivational speakers helped with her healing affirmations work.

14:10: The “one thing” that was crucial to changing her life.

16:10: How Terry did affirmations early on.

19:20: The differences between Thinking Patterns “A” and “B”.

20:35: Terry stops traditional medical treatment. How and why.

24:40: How having a disease can serve you.

25:27: Suggestions for someone dealing with M.S. or other serious condition.

30:40: Other holistic methods Terry discovered, developed, and applied.

32:00: Why she wrote, “The StressFish Guide to EmoTrance” available on Amazon and Barnes and Noble.

32:30: Terry leads Steve through an EmoTrance experience.

38:00: An example of how Terry used EmoTrance to clear a persistent energy block.

40:10: Steve shares his assessment of Terry’s, “StressFish Guide to EmoTrance”, and Terry shares some specific topics in the book.

41:40: Terry shares her two most important realizations about healing.

43:20: How to use EmoTrance and EFT together.

46:20: Life on the Positive side of the SUE (Subject Units of Experience) Scale.

47:45: Dream Building Coaching: Excelling in athletics, health, emotional wellbeing, professional success, and life.

49:10: Creating “Leopard” energy to enter, “the zone”.

50:35: Terry shares information about her Inner Awareness Method.

53:40: Terry shares information about her website, www.TerryLynchCoaching.com and the special gifts she’s offering listeners.

55:40: The one thing Terry wants listeners to know about her beliefs and mission.


Terry’s website: www.TerryLynchCoaching.com.

Terry’s book: “The StressFish Guide to EmoTrance”; https://amzn.to/2CMjsuJ

Mind Over Stress website: www.MindOverStress.us

The SUE Scale resource: https://suescale.com/

Stephen Carter

Stress Solutions, LLC | www.EFT-MD.com | Mind Over Stress Podcast: http://MindOverStress.us

Thursday, January 3, 2019

1-Minute Neck Roll for Stress Reduction

How do you know when you're stressed? You feel it in your body.

One of the areas where stress shows up frequently is the neck. In addition to radiating tension from clenching your jaw, having your head down and forward looking at your phone a hundred times a day adds extra physical stress. 

Cellphone Neck Stress

The average human head weighs about 12 pounds. Bend your head forward and the effective weight on the cervical spine will be much higher. Tilt your head to a 15-degree angle, the weight on the cervical spine more than doubles to about 27 pounds. Greater head extension can result of an effective weight of as much as 60 pounds.

One obvious way to reduce neck strain is to keep your head straight up and lower your eyes to read your phone. It will take practice to break your "head forward" habit, but it's worth the effort.

1-Minute Neck Roll

One great way to release neck stress is to do gentle head rolls. If you have cervical spine or other neck injure, please talk with your doctor before doing any neck involved exercise.

Set a timer or look at your watch in preparation for this 1-minute experience.

Phase 1:

  • Sit or stand with good posture, head up.
  • Slowly, slowly allow your head to rise and then gently drop forward. Your head will find a natural stopping place. Don't force your neck forward. Rather, allow gravity to release the tight muscles and your head will naturally drop until your chin rests on your upper chest.
  • Begin to slowly, slowly rotate your head toward your left shoulder. Allow the natural movement of your head to continue until your head is again erect.
  • Again, allow your head to gently and slowly drop down until your chin again rests on your upper chest.
  • Slowly and gently roll your head toward your right shoulder. Allow the natural movement to continue until your head is again erect.

Repeat 3 times slowly, gently.

Phase 2:

  • After the third rotation, bring shoulders up and gently and slowly rotate your shoulders backward and then forward.
  • Finish by stretching your arms outward and then stretching your fingertips outward as far as comfortable. 
  • Bring arms up over your head (assuming there is no injury restricting this movement) and then bring your hands together at the top of the overhead stretch. 
  • Slowly lower your hands keeping them together and stop with both hands at your middle chest area in the prayer position.
  • Stretch out once again, yawn, sigh, and return to your activities.

This easy neck roll and stretching routine will take about a minute, but you'll feel calm and relaxed for hours.

More Stress Reduction Tips

For more Stress Mastery tips, read previous blog posts on the https://StressMastery.blogspot.com site and listen to episodes of our "Mind Over Stress" podcast by visiting http://MindOverStress.us.

Stephen Carter

Stress Solutions, LLC | www.EFT-MD.com | Podcast: www.MindOverStress.us

Thursday, November 22, 2018

Feeling Thankful and Helping Others Do the Same

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Recorded the day before Thanksgiving in the U.S., I share two things I'm grateful for that happened on that day: 

First, I share a summary of a session where I helped a client - herself a therapist - release fears associated with a medical condition along with eliminating any felt sense of physical pain. Secondly, I share my own feelings about receiving a message of appreciation from a client I worked with months ago.

Why I'm Feeling Thankful

My feelings of gratitude for the successful client session that day were magnified many times over as positive feelings created by receiving the note of thanks from a client I hadn't worked with for many months touched my heart and mind. 

How to Create Feelings of Thankfulness

I encourage you to take just a few moments and call, email, text, or - best of all - write a message of appreciation to someone who has touched your life for the better. They will be touched and grateful for your kindness.

As an added bonus, you will relive the positive memories associated with the person you're communicating with. You will feel wonderful as you make others feel wonderful because of your kindness.

Your thoughtful actions will truly, Make the World a Better Place.

To listen to other positive podcast episodes, visit www.MindOverStress.us

With light and blessings,

Stephen Carter

Stress Solutions, LLC | www.EFT-MD.com | Podcast: www.MindOverStress.us

Thursday, November 8, 2018

How to Apply Loving Touch for Self-Care

Listen to this podcast episode by clicking the player below. If you don't see a player, click this direct link: https://www.spreaker.com/episode/16170008.

Two female cupped hands

Loving Touch Technique for Self-Care

In this episode of, "Less Stress More Joy!", you'll experience an easy to use method to calm and renew called, Loving Touch. 

Loving Touch uses fingertips to stroke sensitive areas of your hands with soothing, gentle movements. You can also apply Loving Touch to your face, arms, legs as time permits to experience even deeper states of relaxation, peace, and calm. 

Loving Touch is a sensual, gentle way to release stress and feel great. It's a marvelous way to create what's called the Relaxation Response, which is an optimum state of mind and body for emotional and physical well-being.

The Loving Touch technique can also be applied to others with permission. They will enjoy a relaxing, sensual sense of calm and stress release.

Yawn, Sigh, Stretch for Cognitive Clarity

In addition to Loving Touch self-care, by listening to this episode in the player above, you learn how to apply the, "Yawn, Sigh, and Stretch" method to relax mind and body. This technique helps clear brain fatigue and revitalizes the prefrontal cortex of the brain after long periods of mental activities. 

After applying the, Yawn, Sigh, Stretch action, you'll experience a sharper sense of presence and cognitive clarity.

More Great Calming Resources

For more stress dissolving audios and videos, visit http://MindOverStress.us. 

Stephen Carter

Stress Solutions, LLC | www.EFT-MD.com | Podcast Site: http://MindOverStress.us 

P.S. If you would like to learn Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT), visit our site www.EFT-MD.com.

Friday, November 2, 2018

How Mother Nature Can Change Your Mind

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Recent research confirms what we all know to be true. Time spent outside in Mother Nature renews the mind, body, and spirit. Time in Mother Nature literally changes the mind. It provides a direct link to our physical roots and reconnects us with the primal source of life.

Moment to Moment Experience in Mother Nature

In this episode recorded in a lovely grove of trees, I share my moment to moment experience as Mother Nature works her magic. I literally feel the positive changes take hold and share how those changes bring enhanced energy, wellbeing, and a sense of calm.

Your Invitation to Enhance Mood and Well-being

I invite you to take just a few minutes each day to leave your residence, your office, and other indoor spaces to spend time in a park or even a tree lined neighborhood connecting to the magic energies only available when we're outside. The air we breath outside is far more energized and fresh than the air available inside offices, homes, and even cars.

Why would I invite you to experience even just a few minutes of Mother Nature? Because it changes your mind and enhances mood and wellbeing. 

How You Can Make the World a Better Place

When you are energized, relaxed, and calm, you influence those you connect with. They are influenced by your positive energy. When that happens, you are literally making this world a better place. 

Stephen Carter | CEO Stress Solutions, LLC | www.EFT-MD.com | Podcasts: https://www.MindOverStress.us

Wednesday, October 10, 2018

Letters to Your Future Self Create Joy

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You'll find the transcript for Episode 3 of the, "Less Stress More Joy" podcast below. This special episode is entitled, "Letters to Your Future Self Create Joy". 

I suggest listening to the podcast in the player above, and then reading through the transcript to review the simple joy creating actions shared in the audio.


Hello, this is your host for the Less Stress More Joy". I am Stephen Carter, CEO of stress solutions.LLC. 

This podcast is dedicated to providing 60 to 90 second actions that will help you feel good about who you are and what you do. 

Write a Letter to Your Future Self

In this episode, I'm going to make a recommendation that you do something that may seem a little odd. But I guarantee if you do it, you will feel wonderful. 

I would like you to take a piece of paper and a pen, not your computer, but a real piece of paper and a pen. And I would like you to start a letter and address this letter to yourself, beginning, "Dear -----",

After addressing your message, add, 

"I'm sending this letter to my future self. I will be including two lists. The first list is a list of three things that I really like and respect about myself. The second list is a list of three things, three goals, I would love to achieve over the next three months."

That's it! Put three things on this sheet of paper that you like and respect about who you are or what you've accomplished; something perhaps about your values. 

What do you value? Are you kind? Are you considerate? Do you say and do good things? Do you say nice things to family members and to strangers?

3 Things You Like or Respect About Yourself

Make a list of three thing you really, really like about yourself. And then make a list of three goals, three things you would absolutely love to achieve within the next three months. 

Worry not about how neat your writing is or isn't. No, that doesn't matter. 

Three things.  Write them down. What do you like about yourself as a human being? What do you respect about yourself? What kindness have you shown others? Then write three things that you would love to achieve. Write those down in your second list.

At the conclusion of your letter write, "With love", and sign your name. 

Mail Your Letter

Read over your letter, fold it up, and put it in an envelope. Address the envelope to yourself, place a stamp on it, and mail it. Yes, we are going to use the mail. Mail that letter to yourself. 

In three, four, or five days. whenever that letter arrives, open it up and read it. You are going to feel absolutely marvelous.

Feel Warm and Good

Try it! You will feel good about yourself. It will put a smile on your face today. It will put a smile on your face during the days to come in anticipation of receiving that letter. 

And when you do receive that letter and open it, there will be a big smile on your face and you will feel good. 

What's Next?

For more great tips about feeling good about yourself and creating a healthier happier you visit us at http://wwwMindOverStress.us. If you would like like to learn about EFT, Emotional Freedom Techniques, and other energy psychology methods, visit our website www.EFT-MD.com. 

Thank you for listening. Please subscribe to this podcast. It will brighten every day that you listen.

Until our next visit together. This is your host Stephen Carter from stress solutions LLC  asking you to please.... be well,... be kind,.... and be blessed.

Stephen Carter

Stress Solutions, LLC | www.EFT-MD.com | Podcasts and Videos: http://www.MindOverStress.us