Thursday, November 22, 2018

Feeling Thankful and Helping Others Do the Same

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Recorded the day before Thanksgiving in the U.S., I share two things I'm grateful for that happened on that day: 

First, I share a summary of a session where I helped a client - herself a therapist - release fears associated with a medical condition along with eliminating any felt sense of physical pain. Secondly, I share my own feelings about receiving a message of appreciation from a client I worked with months ago.

Why I'm Feeling Thankful

My feelings of gratitude for the successful client session that day were magnified many times over as positive feelings created by receiving the note of thanks from a client I hadn't worked with for many months touched my heart and mind. 

How to Create Feelings of Thankfulness

I encourage you to take just a few moments and call, email, text, or - best of all - write a message of appreciation to someone who has touched your life for the better. They will be touched and grateful for your kindness.

As an added bonus, you will relive the positive memories associated with the person you're communicating with. You will feel wonderful as you make others feel wonderful because of your kindness.

Your thoughtful actions will truly, Make the World a Better Place.

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With light and blessings,

Stephen Carter

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Thursday, November 8, 2018

How to Apply Loving Touch for Self-Care

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Loving Touch Technique for Self-Care

In this episode of, "Less Stress More Joy!", you'll experience an easy to use method to calm and renew called, Loving Touch. 

Loving Touch uses fingertips to stroke sensitive areas of your hands with soothing, gentle movements. You can also apply Loving Touch to your face, arms, legs as time permits to experience even deeper states of relaxation, peace, and calm. 

Loving Touch is a sensual, gentle way to release stress and feel great. It's a marvelous way to create what's called the Relaxation Response, which is an optimum state of mind and body for emotional and physical well-being.

The Loving Touch technique can also be applied to others with permission. They will enjoy a relaxing, sensual sense of calm and stress release.

Yawn, Sigh, Stretch for Cognitive Clarity

In addition to Loving Touch self-care, by listening to this episode in the player above, you learn how to apply the, "Yawn, Sigh, and Stretch" method to relax mind and body. This technique helps clear brain fatigue and revitalizes the prefrontal cortex of the brain after long periods of mental activities. 

After applying the, Yawn, Sigh, Stretch action, you'll experience a sharper sense of presence and cognitive clarity.

More Great Calming Resources

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Friday, November 2, 2018

How Mother Nature Can Change Your Mind

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Recent research confirms what we all know to be true. Time spent outside in Mother Nature renews the mind, body, and spirit. Time in Mother Nature literally changes the mind. It provides a direct link to our physical roots and reconnects us with the primal source of life.

Moment to Moment Experience in Mother Nature

In this episode recorded in a lovely grove of trees, I share my moment to moment experience as Mother Nature works her magic. I literally feel the positive changes take hold and share how those changes bring enhanced energy, wellbeing, and a sense of calm.

Your Invitation to Enhance Mood and Well-being

I invite you to take just a few minutes each day to leave your residence, your office, and other indoor spaces to spend time in a park or even a tree lined neighborhood connecting to the magic energies only available when we're outside. The air we breath outside is far more energized and fresh than the air available inside offices, homes, and even cars.

Why would I invite you to experience even just a few minutes of Mother Nature? Because it changes your mind and enhances mood and wellbeing. 

How You Can Make the World a Better Place

When you are energized, relaxed, and calm, you influence those you connect with. They are influenced by your positive energy. When that happens, you are literally making this world a better place. 

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Wednesday, October 10, 2018

Letters to Your Future Self Create Joy

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You'll find the transcript for Episode 3 of the, "Less Stress More Joy" podcast below. This special episode is entitled, "Letters to Your Future Self Create Joy". 

I suggest listening to the podcast in the player above, and then reading through the transcript to review the simple joy creating actions shared in the audio.


Hello, this is your host for the Less Stress More Joy". I am Stephen Carter, CEO of stress solutions.LLC. 

This podcast is dedicated to providing 60 to 90 second actions that will help you feel good about who you are and what you do. 

Write a Letter to Your Future Self

In this episode, I'm going to make a recommendation that you do something that may seem a little odd. But I guarantee if you do it, you will feel wonderful. 

I would like you to take a piece of paper and a pen, not your computer, but a real piece of paper and a pen. And I would like you to start a letter and address this letter to yourself, beginning, "Dear -----",

After addressing your message, add, 

"I'm sending this letter to my future self. I will be including two lists. The first list is a list of three things that I really like and respect about myself. The second list is a list of three things, three goals, I would love to achieve over the next three months."

That's it! Put three things on this sheet of paper that you like and respect about who you are or what you've accomplished; something perhaps about your values. 

What do you value? Are you kind? Are you considerate? Do you say and do good things? Do you say nice things to family members and to strangers?

3 Things You Like or Respect About Yourself

Make a list of three thing you really, really like about yourself. And then make a list of three goals, three things you would absolutely love to achieve within the next three months. 

Worry not about how neat your writing is or isn't. No, that doesn't matter. 

Three things.  Write them down. What do you like about yourself as a human being? What do you respect about yourself? What kindness have you shown others? Then write three things that you would love to achieve. Write those down in your second list.

At the conclusion of your letter write, "With love", and sign your name. 

Mail Your Letter

Read over your letter, fold it up, and put it in an envelope. Address the envelope to yourself, place a stamp on it, and mail it. Yes, we are going to use the mail. Mail that letter to yourself. 

In three, four, or five days. whenever that letter arrives, open it up and read it. You are going to feel absolutely marvelous.

Feel Warm and Good

Try it! You will feel good about yourself. It will put a smile on your face today. It will put a smile on your face during the days to come in anticipation of receiving that letter. 

And when you do receive that letter and open it, there will be a big smile on your face and you will feel good. 

What's Next?

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Until our next visit together. This is your host Stephen Carter from stress solutions LLC  asking you to please.... be well,... be kind,.... and be blessed.

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Friday, October 5, 2018

Why You Should Stop Pursuing Happiness

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It’s in the United States Declaration of Independence:

“We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men are created equal, that they are endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable Rights, that among these are Life, Liberty and the pursuit of Happiness.”

When driving from Maryland into Pennsylvania on Interstate 83, the “Welcome to Pennsylvania” sign tells us to, “Pursue Your Happiness”, presumably in Pennsylvania. 

So why do I suggest you stop pursuing happiness?

The Big Idea - Pursuing Happiness Guarantees You Won’t Be Happy

The Big Idea for this episode is the one sure way to guarantee you never experience happiness is to pursue happiness. Why? Because happiness is an inside job. It’s a felt sense, a knowing, that goes deep into our soul when our actions align with our deepest values. 

If you ask people when will they be happy, typical responses will be something like, 

  • “When I earn $10,000 more a year, then I’ll be happy”; 
  • “When I find that special someone to ‘make me happy’, then I’ll be happy”; “When I’m cured of this medical condition and I’m free of pain, then I’ll be happy”; 
  • “When I get that new luxury car, I’ll be happy”. 
  • “When my team wins the championship! I will be so happy!”

All of these answers point in the same direction: Happiness can only be found, “out there”. Something in my external world needs to change before I can be happy. I must acquire some object, some person, or achieve some goal before I’ll be happy. 

But the reality is achieving these kinds of goals or outcomes provides only fleeting elation. They truly don’t create longterm happiness.

What Great Thinkers Say About Happiness

What advice has been offered by great thinkers? Surely, they know the happiness secret.

Cicero tells us, “Happiness consists of tranquility of mind”.

Aristotle says, “Happiness is the meaning and purpose of life.  The whole aim and end of human existence”. 

Abraham Lincoln offers a highly practical take on the subject: "Folks are about as happy as they make their minds up to be”. 

What Science Says About Happiness

What does science, particularly Positive Psychology research tell us about happiness?

Dr. Mark K. Setton, Associate Professor of East Asian Studies at the University of Bridgeport in Connecticut, created a website dedicated to exploring happiness. That website, 

In the “Science of Happiness” section, Dr. Setton penned a short, but powerful summary of what scientific research tells us about happiness. In his, “7 Habits of Happy People”, we learn:

  • “Relationships: Express your heart. People who have one or more close friendships are happier.”
  • “Acts of Kindness: “Cultivate kindness. People who volunteer or simply care for others on a consistent basis seem to be happier and less depressed.”
  • “Exercise and Physical Wellbeing: Keep moving and eat well. Regular exercise has been associated with improved mental well-being and a lower incidence of depression."
  • “Flow: Find your flow. If we are deeply involved in trying to reach a goal, or an activity that is challenging but well suited to our skills, we experience a joyful state called ‘flow.’
  • “Spiritual Engagement and Meaning: “Studies demonstrate a close link between spiritual and religious practice and happiness.” 
  • “Strengths and Virtues: Discover and use your strengths. Studies by experts such as Martin Seligman in the new field of Positive Psychology show that the happiest people are those that have discovered their unique strengths and virtues and use those strengths and virtues for a purpose that is greater than their own personal goals.”
  • “Positive Mindset: Optimism, Mindfulness, and Gratitude: Treasure gratitude, mindfulness, and hope. Of all the areas studied in the relatively young field of positive psychology, gratitude has perhaps received the most attention. Grateful people have been shown to have greater positive emotion, a greater sense of belonging, and lower incidence of depression and stress.”

What Do These Habits Have in Common?

What do these habits have in common? There are no “things”, no physical objects, no outside pursuits. There is nothing “out there” to acquire, own, or covet. All of these habits relate to habits of mind and heart. 

Happiness is a state of being that can’t be pursued. It is the result of applying one or more of these habits in your everyday life.

Recall Abraham Lincoln’s observation, “Folks are about as happy as they make their minds up to be”. This relates to Habit Number 7, Having a positive mindset of optimism, mindfulness, and gratitude. 

Above all, I recommend committing to the idea that happiness is truly an inside job and will grow as you apply the 7 happiness habits.

What’s Next?

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Tuesday, September 18, 2018

Got Pain? Get Pain Relief With Easy Mindful Awareness

In this episode of the, "Mind Over Stress" podcast, you learn about two important research studies establishing the effectiveness of mindfulness in reducing the intensity of physical pain and the emotional disturbance that often accompanies physical pain. 

Commenting on the most recent study, lead researcher Fadel Zeidan, Ph.D., assistant professor of neurobiology and anatomy at the medical school associated with Baptist Medical Center, said,

 "We now know that some people are more mindful than others, and those people seemingly feel less pain."

Can Mindful Awareness be Learned?

Can mindful awareness be learned? In our experience at Stress Solutions, LLC, the answer is absolutely yes.

In this "Mind Over Stress" podcast, you specifically will:

  • Discover where in the brain mindfulness works to reduce the felt pain experience;
  • Discover how exactly to begin a pain reduction mindfulness practice; and,
  • Experience a 10-minute Mindful Awareness guided meditation you can apply to help reduce the felt sense of pain.

Here is the link to listen to this podcast episode including the 10-minute Mindful Awareness guided meditation.

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Important Note: The information in any blog post on this site or any podcast episode mentioned in any blog post is not intended to offer advice or recommendations on treatment or prevention of any medical or psychological condition. This blog and podcast episode is provided for informational purposes only. Consult your licensed medical doctor for any and all medical or psychological conditions.

Resource Citations:

'Mindful people' feel less pain; MRI imaging pinpoints supporting brain activity.

Mindfulness meditation trumps placebo in pain reduction.  November 11, 2015, Wake Forest University Baptist Medical Center

Monday, August 27, 2018

Want to Create Positive Feelings? Ask This Question!

Positive questions call out positive memories and ideas
Do you want to create positive feelings in others and yourself with one powerful question?

The post below is a transcript of the latest, "Make the World a Better Place" podcast.

In this episode, you discover one powerful question that creates positive feelings immediately. This question directs the mind to recall specific memories of positive experiences, conversations, and emotions that make the person you ask - and yourself - feel wonderful. 

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Our "Better World" Begins in a Hair Salon

We begin our story at a hair salon. And as I sat down in the chair to get my haircut, I started chatting with the young lady who has been cutting my hair for 10 to 12 years - quite a long time. I asked her if she had been on vacation. She said, “yes”, they had as a family gone to Myrtle Beach, South Carolina.

And it just came to me, a question: I asked, What was the best part of your vacation?"

She thought for three or four seconds, and she said, 

“Well, the second day we were there, we walked out on the beach and we found this inlet. It was about seven o'clock in the morning, very few people were around, it was very pleasant."

"We found this inlet and as we looked at all of the teeming life in that watery inlet, we noticed crabs, little sand crabs that were running around. My daughter found an octopus. My brother-in-law found a starfish."

"It was just magic watching all of the life forms in that little inlet. We stayed there for the better part of two hours.”

As she was telling me the story, she was smiling; she was beaming; she was re-living the magic moments of that vacation.

How You Can Use The “Best Part…” Question

I invite you to do the same when you are in conversation with someone. And of course, if it is an appropriate time or circumstance to ask, ask, 

“What was the best thing about x? 

What was the best thing about your day? 

What was the best thing about that vacation? 

What was the best thing about your conversation with your daughter last night? 

What was the best thing about the visit with your grandchild?” 

This question is a powerful key to opening the vault of positive memories, positive experiences for others. You also get the benefit of enjoying their stories. 

Use the “Best Part… Question for Yourself

I also suggest periodically ask yourself that same question.

“What was the best part of my day today? 

What was the best part of my conversation with my coworker today? 

What was the best part of my morning and evening commute? 

What was enjoyable? What was fun? What was special?”

A Great Journal Question

If you like to journal, this is a great question to start your journaling activities. I encourage you to keep a journal. It doesn't have to be elaborate. 

Keep a journal about the most interesting or the most enjoyable three things you experience each day. It's a great way to end your day. 

Those psychologists who are steeped in the method of positive psychology will tell you that keeping a journal over time is the single best way to elevate your overall sense of happiness, 

Returning to conversations with others and with yourself, when you ask that magic question, “What was the best part of your day?”,  you are opening the vault - the energy vault, the fun vault, the positive memory vault for others and for yourself. When you open that vault, you truly do make this world a better place.

What’s Next?

Visit our website at You’ll find more episodes of the, “Make the World a Better Place” podcast when you click the “Audio Podcasts” tab. You’ll also find episodes of the, “Mind Over Stress” podcast on the home page.

If you would like to create multiple positive moments throughout your day, learn about positive Emotional Freedom Techniques or Positive EFT, by visiting my website at

Until we again chat, this is your host for, "Make the World a Better Place", Stephen Carter, asking you to please, 

…be well, 
…be kind,
…and be blessed.

Stephen Carter | Stress Solutions, LLC |

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